I got your goat!


Pictured above is the planet Saturn, ruler of Capricorn, whose symbol is a goat.

Saturn’s domain includes many things, including our individual authority or inner author.  Saturn reminds us that we are the Chief Decision Makers in charge of our lives!

For more reasons than I can name here, we have given over our goat (our authority) to others – our parents, religious institutions, spouses, bosses, doctors, gurus, coaches, educators, and the media.

Suffice to say, our goat is getting got, a lot!

At least these are the terms in which astrologer Caroline Casey talks about Saturn and it’s incarnation in the form of Capricorn.

As an officiant I see this phenomenon show up strongly when it comes to wedding vows.

What does the ringed planet have to do with wedding vows, you ask?

It’s surprising to me how many people don’t think about the vows they will be making to each other, which essentially form the ground of their marriage.

What happens in ceremony ripples into material reality, as what’s invoked under the alter unfolds into the world over time.

As a modern minister and a bit of a trickster, I rub my hands together with a dubious twinkle in my eyes when I get to decide what other people will promise one another under the alter 😉

But honestly I much prefer when couples write their own vows, and make promises in proportion to their natures and private knowing of each other – staying true to themselves and the spirit of their relationship. It thrills me when they use the opportunity of their ceremony to enhance what is already between them, and invoke that which has direct and personal meaning to them.

I like for them to take it on, and take it seriously!

How can I ever know what happens behind closed doors and get inside the exchanges of love and erotic exploration that happen between them, or the ways they navigate the trials and tensions of their relationship dynamics and dysfunctions…?

Some couples just feel confused and don’t know what to write.  They need help, and that’s great!  That’s when we can put our heads and hearts together and create something magical.  Where my experience can meet their love story and animate and direct it in a good way.

However, some couples just don’t want to think about it, or can’t be bothered.  But it’s not very easy to get behind words that are not your own, or keep promises that are not in resonance with you, or that feel contrived.

I think our world would be very different if we looked within to know ourselves deeply, determined what was best for us personally, questioned our beliefs and conditioning, and insisted on relevance and meaning.

Some of the ways you can recover your inner authority include:

*Do a media fast for a period of time – cutting out (or significantly limiting) all radio, tv, social media, etc.

*Try on ideas the way you would a new outfit. You don’t have to keep it, just be willing to wear it around the house for a day or two.

*Question everything – not in a combative way, but in a way that is grounded in curiosity and wonder. Ask yourself questions like: Is this empirically true? Is there another way I can look at this?

*See how things feel in your body and psyche. When you hear a concept or an idea notice whether you feel fragmented and conflicted, or excited and empowered. Notice if your body goes into contraction or expansion; if you are breathing more deeply or holding your breath. Does it make your mind spin, loop and race, or does it feels relaxing or enlivening…?

Just some things to consider!

I hope that we can all wake up to the ways that we give our thoughts, preferences, and choices away, and break free from influences that obscure our essence and our truest self-expression!  I pray that we can take back our rites and rituals and feed that which is holy in new and life-giving ways!



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Bring it!

I wanted to share a video with you that recently went viral.  Last time I checked it had been viewed over 34 million times!

I am sharing this with you because of the way it moves me so so deeply. This call and response from loving and dedicated community is the Heart of Love, and the fire that keeps it burning bright and strong. It’s a transmission of beauty we should all know. And these guys sure do know how to bring it!

I hope you’ll watch it and let it crack you open too.


As a weaver of cross-cultural blessings with a deep call to ministry and sane rites-of-passage, it’s my passion and my honor to bless couples across the threshold into married life.

Thankfully there are so many ways to bring in the Love!

We get to create rich tapestries of blessing that honor the ancient call to gather and celebrate life-passages, and the freedom to re-envision, refashion, and reframe our ceremonies with modern meaning and significance, so that we can have a direct and relevant encounter with the Living Spirit in our own lives, right here and now.

I will be working with some lovely couples this year to craft heartfelt ceremonies that honor and reflect their unique values, vision and relationship, and help them cross the threshold into married life. We will need to navigate with great care to respect their families traditions and beliefs, as we bring beauty and mystical feeling through contemporary language and rituals.

It’s a mighty undertaking, and I am so thrilled to attempt it in cooperation with them!

Coming as I do from a fundamental religious background, I have an understanding of the power of tradition, and also the way that for many of us it has gone lifeless and limp. So I am thrilled to help reinvigorate what is holy by crafting and officiating sacred rituals that are indigenous to us all.

I believe that is why this video has spoken to so many – because at some level, we all get it!



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I Pledge Allegiance

After years of traveling, seeking, apprenticing and deepening various interests, studies and pursuits, there was a moment when I realized what the journey was truly about.  I understood that the point was not to be like someone else, no matter how much I loved or admired them, but to be radically and completely myself, and for everybody else to be radically and completely themselves too.

Now… accessing and becoming oneself deeply is no easy undertaking.  We self-sabotage, doubt our worthiness, undermine our value, compare ourselves to others, play small, numb out, and believe myriad out-dated stories we have about ourselves.

“Remember that self-doubt is as self-centered as self-inflation. Your obligation is to reach as deeply as you can and offer your unique and authentic gifts as bravely and beautifully as you’re able.” ~ Bill Plotkin.

But it is also the worthiest endeavor I know of.  One that requires honoring our longings and affinities, owning our quirks, idiosyncrasies and shortcomings, and being more, not less of ourselves.  One that requires us to pledge allegiance to ourselves ~ pledge to stay with ourselves in the ways we have always wished someone else would, and the way that life, and the overflowing current of benevolent blessings stays with us when we allow it to (and even when we don’t).

Martha Graham reminds us of this in a letter she wrote to Agnes Demille.


One of the most common and insidious things that gets in the way of our full us-ness is comparison.  In his tarot deck, Indian mystic and spiritual teacher Osho writes:

“Who ever told you that the bamboo is more beautiful than the oak, or the oak more valuable than the bamboo? Do you think the oak wishes it had a hollow trunk like this bamboo? Does the bamboo feel jealous of the oak because it is bigger and its leaves change color in the fall? The very idea of the two trees comparing themselves to each other seems ridiculous, but we humans seem to find this habit very hard to break. Let’s face it, there is always going to be somebody who is more beautiful, more talented, stronger, more intelligent, or apparently happier than you are. And conversely, there will always be those who are less than you in all these ways. The way to find out who you are is not by comparing yourself with others, but by looking to see whether you are fulfilling your own potential in the best way you know how.”


To live a soulful life, incarnate and embodied as YOU here on earth, you need to go closer to (not further from) what makes you distinctly and divinely you. This requires a radical turning towards yourself, and a desire to know yourself as intimately as you know anyone or anything. It requires a deeply intimate best-friendship with yourself as you are, here and now.

In his beautiful talk on poems self-compassion, David Whyte says that “The soul doesn’t care whether you do something successfully or fail at it; it just wants to know, did you do it in your way? Was it you who failed, or were you trying to be someone else when you failed? If it was you, the soul is happy, because it was your experience, your failure, and no one can take it away from you. The question is not: Did you fail, or did you win? The question becomes: Did you go your own way? ”

It is a bold and courageous thing to believe and act as if you matter, as if you have value, medicine, and unique dimensions of divinity to offer as a gift to this world.

This isn’t about being full of yourself, but it is about being fully yourself, filled up with yourself, occupying yourself completely, and letting your expression in the world be a natural bubbling over of the beautiful, the paradoxical, the irreconcilable, and the multi-dimensional being that you are.


In her delightful TedTalk “The Art of Being Yourself”, Caroline McHugh reminds us that our only job is to be as good at being ourselves as those larger-than-life people we worship and admire are at being themselves.  To take on the simple and complex task of knowing who we are at an essence level and being MORE of that.

One of my teachers says that we’re all herbs in Mother’s Garden, and that our job is to emit our unique fragrance, color and texture. In this way we can each be a glorious addition to the beauty, diversity and abundance on this earth.

“Live as near as possible to the channel in which your life flows.” Henry David Thoreau

When you lose sight of the immense gift that you bring, may you be overwhelmingly recalled “to the true prayer of YOUR life”.  May the longing in the world for what you have to offer become so burning that you can no longer ignore it!

And if you need some help REMEMBERING, invest in yourself and find me for some dynamic coaching!



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Celestial Soundbites ~ Sun in Scorpio (rated seX)

I started this blog series a year ago when the sun was last in Scorpio with the theme of Death. I didn’t invoke death to be bleak or morose, but because of the way that it puts us into dynamic relationship with life.

This month I want to come full circle, honor the sign of Scorpio, and close this series, again with the theme of death, only this time with the little death or la petite mort of orgasm, and it’s companions – sex, eroticism, pleasure, arousal, and genital anatomy.

Because, and thank goodness, Scorpio is a deep, provocative, taboo-probing sign, and sex is a complex, layered, often hidden, shamed and marginalized, though endlessly compelling topic.

Like death, sex has a way of stirring us up and putting us into dynamic relationship with our aliveness. Astrologer Caroline Casey says that Scorpio energy, and the 8th house it rules, wants to take everything once sacred that has since been distorted, denigrated and demeaned and restore it back to sacred.

So I have decided to share a few articles, videos and blog posts by sex-perts and educators of erotic intelligence who are unapologetically sex-positive, and unwaveringly clear about the generative, restorative and healing power of sex. They talk about it openly, using science, poetry, and humor, liberating it from the shame and taboo our society has put around it.

This post (and the ones I reference below) may trigger you, or excite you, or they may do both. You might find that you are compelled AND repelled, aroused AND averse, which can feel challenging to navigate, since most of us prefer to have a clear stance on one side of the fence, or the other.

Luckily, Scorpio knows how to be with both/and, and sit in that edgy, complex place, which is the true seat of wholeness. This includes the places where our early conditioning exists alongside of and often conflicts with the full range of our sexual urges and desires, and where any of our personal history of sexual wounding, or religious indoctrination, rubs up against our most natural erotic impulses and inclinations.

So I invite you to check out these resources, ideally in a spirit of open-ended curiosity, contemplation and consideration.

The Intelligence In Our Full Pleasure

Orgasm: The Cure for Hunger in the Western Woman


The Sacred Power Of Your Yoni {Full Body Orgasm, Cervical- & Multiple Orgasm}

The Sex Prayer

The Epidemic of Sexually Unfulfilled Females

Walk Of No Shame

May each of us find increasing freedom, vitality and ecstasy in this most beautiful realm of our Nature, blessing and restoring to sacred that which has been shamed, shadowed and made sinful.

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Celestial Soundbites ~ Sun in Libra

Libra’s (and Libra Risings) have a certain magnetic appeal. They are physically attractive and beautiful to look at, or compellingly stylish and well put together. Libra can walk into a room where there is dissonance and disjointedness and quite naturally unify and harmonize the space. They have a deep sense of fairness, equality and justice. Libra’s are relational, cooperative and collaborative. They are great at creating the perfect ambiance, and have an easy sociability that makes you want them at your dinner party.

Libra’s can also be painfully codependent and lose touch with their most basic sense of self as their reference point becomes “the other”. So attuned are they to what others want, that they bend and acquiesce to keep things peaceful and harmonious, and often lose touch with their own needs and preferences.

Sometimes Libra’s decision to yield and accommodate is a conscious one – she knows what she wants, but chooses to defer to others in order to avoid conflict, and keep things even-keeled and harmonious. Other times she is so lost in pleasing and appeasing that she doesn’t even know she wanted something different. The result can be a backlog of resentment and lash-out, for when Libra realizes she wanted something else, she can get retroactively pissed!

A more evolved Libra will take ownership of the way her people-pleasing tendencies colluded with the situation, while a less evolved Libra might stay in blame and resentment, unable to own her inability to express preferences or take a stand for her needs.

Libra’s have an uncanny ability to see all sides of things. This is one of their superpowers, but it can also be their kryptonite.

Seeing from every angle allows them to be great mediators, diplomats and negotiators, since they can stay neutral and maintain equanimity when things heat up or get skewed in any one direction. But because they can see all sides of things, they can hang out in ambivalence, ambiguity and indecision, paralyzed by what feel like impossible choices.

Mainstream astro-knowledge tells us that Libra represents balance, but what most people don’t know is that we’re not born effortlessly embodying our sign’s wisest and most evolved expression, we have to learn it. Often Libra’s growth edge is to become more balanced. In fact, many of my Libra heavy clients (i.e. those with multiple planets in Libra) struggle with significant imbalances, including bi-polar disorder, and intense turmoil about sexual orientation, fluctuating between opposite spectrums until they find healthy middle ground.

In my writings on wholeness, I often talk about the powerful territory of both/and versus either/or. This is a truly Libran consideration, and one of the big poison/medicine arcs of this sign. If Libra can learn to not become polarized in duality but to hold it all equally, she has mastered something quite profound. Then she can choicefully tip the scales in the direction of what is most just, beautiful, equal and peaceful.


One of my favorite prayers is the Navajo Beauty Way Prayer, a truly Libran invocation. Through the language of beauty it calls us to re-establish balance in our lives and come into harmony with all of creation. It reminds us that we can make our life our art, and our walk through life an act of beauty – a beauty way walk.

One way to honor this sun-sign-cycle would be to recite this prayer for a period of time. But do so with care, because sometimes in order for things to come into real balance, they need to get pretty lopsided first!

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Taking refuge

This article is a continuation of Sometimes I’m an Asshole, my most popular blog to date. Maybe it’s because of the compelling title, though I’m guessing it’s because of the universality of what I described about the longing for wholeness, and the challenges with it. Some of those considerations again include:

*Our conscious, healthy, and genuine desires to be of service, to do no harm, to extend loving-kindness. You know, our basic goodness, our deep morality, our cleanest impulses. Also, our conditioned, unquestioned, and neurotic desires to be good and do good, most often motivated by a quenchless need for positive feedback, approval from others, and the desire to belong.

*The intuitions and instincts from our internal guidance mechanisms – those parts that whisper to us, and compel us to journey beyond the known, the safe, the socially accepted or condoned. Those times when only we know what we have to do, and we have to drown out all voices of dissent and follow our inner prompts, come what may. Essentially, those things one needs to be or do in order to be in integrity with oneself.

*The moral complexity that arises when what we must choose for ourselves could cause real harm to another. The slippery navigation (no matter how mindful or self-aware we are) that requires us wonder if our impulses are trustworthy or reckless, grounded in wisdom or propelled by wound, or perhaps some of both.

Given these factors, and many others, can we still find anchor in our wholeness? Can we be with the complexity, the paradox, and the tension, and find some way to behold and be held within it all?


In response to my post on ass-wholeness, one of my most beloved elders and a true soul friend wrote:

“Surely good to join with ALL humanity, is it not? Whole means holding it all, certainly, NOT only perfection. Ultimately, WHOLE has NO duality in it whatsoever. Hard to dismantle eons of conditioning around all this, and also, view the complexity of how we aspire to do no harm and go about accomplishing this in our lives. And, we will all surely fuck up, over and over again. What a great practice to learn to love ourselves and each other endlessly, and hold it ALL in the great unfolding.”

A healer friend in the Philippines reminds me that the origin of the word healing comes from the old European word hælan, which literally means to make whole.

Dream weaver and artist Toko-pa writes that “wholeness is not, as the word implies, a state of completion at the end of a long dedication to attainment. Rather, it is a channel into which we can always tune. It just so happens that our ability to remain in reception of its broadcast can take a lifetime to master.”

Their words lift me up. I feel my dedication deepen, and I feel more integrated, more whole. I understand more clearly my attraction to modalities that are inclusive of all, and favoring of none, that illustrate the democracy within the psyche, honor all dimensions of self, and love each fractal of light as much as the prism itself.

I’m getting that the way to wholeness is through fluid inquiry rather than static answers. I’m choosing to orient to it as a study, a lifelong dedication to process, rather than as a fixed destination.  Most of all, I’m learning to invite the flailing, disillusioned, irreconcilable, and hypocritical parts of myself to the table, along with all the others, and take refuge in the sanctity of the exploration itself.

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Celestial Soundbites ~ Sun in Virgo

“Perfection is self abuse of the highest order.”

This quote is a great illustration of the Virgoian conundrum. Truly, perfection is what motivates this sign. Virgo has high standards of excellence and a high love of high order. Her territory is precision, distillation, discernment and refinement. Both earthy and ethereal, she has a profound sense of sacred symmetry, and carries important and mysterious medicine for the community.

But all too often these impulses and inclinations (and the distorted sense of responsibility that comes with them) cause her to turn in on herself and become self-abusive, especially when whatever project or objective falls short of her own perfectionist ideals. Her attention to detail can manifest as endlessly critical, irrationally fixated, and, when highly stressed, downright obsessive.

Virgo books

I chanced on this image the other day while searching for something on Amazon.com. The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up, pictured next to The Gifts of Imperfection. I haven’t read either of these books, but their titles represent a good illustration of key Virgoan themes. Hence honoring Virgo might include some dedication to both.

Attending to the organizing and sorting impulse ~ discerning and distilling between what stays and what goes, what is useful and what is not. Deleting Facebook friends you’ve never met, throwing out expired spices from your kitchen, reorganizing your bookshelves or sock drawer, cutting foods out of your diet that make you sick, and tossing toiletries you never use. Then reveling in the beauty and satisfaction that comes when order is present.

Next, the willingness to see the gifts in your perceived imperfections, questioning what perfection even means, and what is compelling you towards it, and acknowledging how your sense of wholeness gets disrupted when your less-than-perfect parts are excluded. Additionally, the willingness to consider the ways that you might actually become more perfect (skilled, masterful, adept) when you explore and experiment, starting right here and now, with wherever it is you are, rather than waiting for some unattainable moment when you finally have your shit fully together.

As mistress of the harvest, Virgo empowers you to use your discernment about which practices and lines of inquiry work for you and which don’t. So take it or leave it, the choice is yours!

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Sometimes I’m an asshole

At some point, I dedicated my life to the study and cultivation of wholeness, a dedication that birthed out of my own need to have space to be all of me.

Born into a cultural framework that didn’t make room for the full range of my humanity, that didn’t include my confusion and my doubt, my pettiness, my lust, or my rage, I found myself feeling squashed, denying pieces of myself, and working really hard to brush my not so nice, shiny, happy, socially-acceptable parts under the rug. It was utterly fragmenting, and the total opposite of wholeness.

I recently confronted another layer of the subtle and insidious, yet violent and overt self-squashing that happens when I feel inwardly (or outwardly) pressured to always get it right. Not long after, I received this beautiful reminder from David Whyte during a talk he gave about the Mary Oliver poem Wild Geese that starts with the line “you do not have to be good”.

He says, “if there is goodness in the world it comes from our rubbing ourselves up against life and testing ourselves against it and making lots of mistakes and falling down flat, and doing bad things thinking we’re doing good things, doing good things thinking we’re doing bad things, and making sense of it from the greater perspective of one’s own personal destiny and intuitions of where we’re supposed to go in the world.”

Such radical permission to be a human, to fuck it up, to learn through trial and error, and follow our own inner imperatives about how we need to act and be in service of those things that go beyond what others may understand or perceive about our behaviors, motives and intentions.

Big exhale.

The next day I read these words on a friend’s Facebook page, and another wave of relief and permission washed over and settled inside me.

“I have made choices in my life that other women in the same circumstances may not have made. But I am not other women. Or another woman. I am myself. I owe the world no explanations. I only owe it my own walk in dignity. I am a fierce protector of Life. And sometimes that protection has taken the form of saving myself instead of another or the relationship.”

Another deep exhale.

Even if the intention is to remain in integrity, to show up fully and skillfully, it doesn’t mean that we always can or do. Sometimes we behave badly and fuck it up. Sometimes we’re reactive, and lack bandwidth, or are a hot mess. Let’s own it and not pretend otherwise.

I’m not advocating intentional meanness or violence or cruelty, but sometimes we need to follow our impulses and find out through experience what’s right and what isn’t, what works and what doesn’t. We need permission to be adult learners, who can fumble and be messy sometimes.

I’d rather be whole than one dimensional and only show the world one face. I’d rather be dynamic and take risks, than be gracious and agreeable all the time. But it’s all kinds of edgy because it touches on the most primal, deep rooted fear that if I don’t show up the way others want me to, I might lose love, or belonging, or business, or my reputation. Even though there is truly no way around being liked by some and disdained by others, or avoiding people’s projections about me for better or for worse. So I may as well be free to be all of me – the good, the bad, and the ugly.

I don’t know about you, but I want to be a full range human being, with blind spots, and flaws, and just be real and fallible and a bitch sometimes, or the perception of one. I want those parts to be included too. Otherwise I feel like a caged animal, relentlessly judgmental of myself about how I “should be”, and way less tolerant or forgiving of others when they mess up or just plain disappoint me.

So today I am embracing my ass-wholeness, because wholeness is best, even when I’m not at mine!

“Wholeness is not, as the word implies, a state of completion at the end of a long dedication to attainment. Rather, it is a channel into which we can always tune. It just so happens that our ability to remain in reception of its broadcast can take a lifetime to master.”  Toko-pa

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Inside Out

Sometimes I call my work parts-work, other times, shadow-work, but it’s all the same to me.

Distilled down, it’s about isolating parts of self or psyche (sometimes in tremendously nuanced and subtle ways) in order to access shadow material. You know, our gaping blind spots – the stuff we can’t see but that’s really obvious to everyone around us. Material that we banished to the depths of our unconscious because it wasn’t safe or socially acceptable to express “that thing” or be “that way”, but is now running amok, seeping out sideways, leaking everywhere!

Played out, this unconscious material can wreak holy havoc in our lives.  I mean, have you seen “Inside Out”?!

“Sadness” has wisdom, insight, and perspective to share, but the more she’s silenced, invalidated, and relegated to a small corner of the room, the more she unwittingly and compulsively creates situations to get Riley’s attention.  She creates tremendous disruption in a simple attempt to be heard, and a lot of damage occurs before her value is recognized and she is given her rightful place inside of Riley’s psyche.

In the work I facilitate, I have my clients personify various parts of themselves so that these parts can come into conscious awareness, and be accepted, owned and integrated by the Self. Once integrated, the life force energy within these parts gets updated, redirected, and repurposed to good use. More often than not, all these parts want are to be heard and validated.  The rest kind of takes care of itself after that — because the energy has been liberated and movement in now possible.

We all have impulses and personality traits we’d rather not admit to or show the world, but they are part of us, and if we resist them, and battle to keep them hidden, they get bigger, louder, and more entrenched in their habitual stance.

The movie illustrated a few really important things:

The profound usefulness of all emotions, including and maybe especially the ones we deem as bad or unfavorable.  You know, the ones we most try to get rid of.

The more we turn towards all that is inside us, the more dynamic our emotional reality can be. We develop and grow, and one dimensional emotional experiences transform into textured, layered, multi-colored ones.

When we repress and neglect our internal emotional cues, something inside of us breaks or splits, as in the case of the “personality islands” crumbling into oblivion. We disconnect from important parts of our history and from our core sense of self, which in turn dulls our experience of life. But do the work of repair and old neural networks get updated, and new ones get formed. After all, once “Sadness” was integrated, the “personality islands” came back online, only with way more nuance and sophistication.


In general, the more we embrace our shadows, the closer we come to embodying our Souls. If embodying your Soul is important to you, then this type of work will yield deep rewards.  If that’s not what compels you, do it so that you can direct your energy where and how you want it, instead of having it perpetually sabotage and derail you.

So embrace your feelings, and be a gracious host for all of your emotions. Then notice how much quicker they dissolve into their original essence, and fill you with a sense of dynamic wholeness.

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Celestial Soundbites ~ Sun in Leo

As an incarnation of the Sun, Leos are bright, warm, shiny, and magnetic, and when they’re around, they can blot out all the other stars in the room.

Leos want to be seen, heard, acknowledged, and applauded. They love to take center stage. But – to paraphrase one of my favorite astrologers – if Leos aren’t channeling their generative juices into some creative endeavor, they’re creating art of another kind. DRAMA!!!

Leos love to have fun, to play, to party it up. Their exuberant zest for life is contagious, and they truly do bring life to the party. But they can also steal your thunder, and pout like a child when the focus isn’t on them.

Here are a few snapshots about some Leo people I know:

One of my best friends has a Leo moon. She has a big, dynamic personality. She’s wildly stylish, and loves to dress up, go out, have fun, and spread joy. She is constantly tortured about her artistry – plagued equally by her desire to create, and her doubt about whether her creations are truly viable. She takes up a lot of energetic space when she’s in a room, but then… she can make you feel like you’re the only person in the room with her.

A Leo Sun I know fully embodies the King archetype. There is a lion-hearted nobility about him, and people are consistently magnetized towards him. He is a natural community leader, energizing all those he meets. Even if he is a bit insensitive regarding the fact that not everyone possesses his kind of effortless magnetism.

Another friend with a Leo moon is ambivalent about shining too bright or taking up too much space. However, she is willing to come into the spotlight when it’s for something noble – to be a vessel in service to something larger – versus standing out for the sake of self-aggrandizement. This is part of the high evolutionary impulse of Leo – to show up as a conduit, not in ego-driven ownership of her energy, gifts or craft, but in service to it, and to those who receive it

Typically, individuals who have a strong leonine influence have to work with their energy – toning it down in some moments, amplifying it in others. They can be alternately touchy and bold – bedazzling us with their charisma and charm, or sulky and sour if the feedback from those around them isn’t lavish enough or the kind they want.


I want to encourage you to get creative about ways to honor this sun-sign-cycle. But here are a few ideas…

  • Go solar! Implementing and/or investing in solar technology is a wonderful way to honor this Sun-ruled sign.
  • Increase your vitamin D intake – whether by swallowing a capsule or lounging in the sun, invite that vital energy in!
  • Ask to be seen and acknowledged for something you’re longing to be recognized or validated for. Literally ask for it.
  • Join your community theater or local choir, and insist on getting the solo! Take that pottery workshop or swing dance class you’ve been wanting to, or read The Artists Way or Drawing on the Right Side of the Brain.

…maybe you make a new fashion statement, or decorate your patio with colorful lights and bright fabrics. No matter! The world is your canvas, and the sky’s the limit. So make like a Leo, and go BIG!

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